As I have crossed over into the second half of my life and I no longer get a second glance from others like I once did, I wonder what makes women become unnoticeable as they age. We know all that stuff the feminists say about objectification and valuing women for how smart they are and how shallow our society is to measure a woman's worth in the physical. This isn't about that. I admit I look at other people, both men and women, because I enjoy seeing well put together people regardless of age, apparently something that is becoming extinct.
To clarify, I am not talking about the young here. Anyone can skate on their looks, some longer than others, based on youth. Skin undamaged by sun, silky hair and a glut of hormones makes even the not so attractive people attractive. This concern I am voicing here is about the middle aged women who seem to have lost their luster and have not found a way to let go of their past and flourish in the present.
What is it that makes some women age and still look attractive and others age to visual indifference? Our eyes pass over the plain, the rumpled, the ones who look like an unmade bed. Out of every 10 women over age 50, only a few will catch my eye. It boils down to three things....being somewhere within a reasonable weight range but not necessarily thin. The second is to wear well fitting, clean clothing. The third and most important thing is hairstyle. You can have the first two of the three but without the third, you vanish.
I have to ask "What does she ask for when she goes to the hairdresser?" How is it possible that so many middle-aged women pay money for a hairstyle that doesn't look like one? What did she ask for? "Yes, I would like a haircut where you chop my hair in uneven layers, then dye it a flat mousy brown and preferably leave the color on too long so it is fried. Then, please, blow dry it on too high of a heat so the ends frizz all over." or "I'd like highlights on my already dried-out naturally curly hair. Just process it long enough to turn orange and then style it in a football helmet like I wore in high school." or better yet "I'd love it if you could give me a style that shows no shine, no body, no interesting color and I'd prefer that you give me a cut that ages me at least 15 years."
|St. Mary Magdalene at Chris Hart Studio|
St. Mary Magdalene is always shown with a luxuriant head of hair, holding a jar of perfumed oil or a cross. Yep, you're right, she was a penitent sinner, washing the lords feet with her tears as she wept bitterly for her sins. Then using her beautiful, thick head of hair, she dried his feet. Any saint who has enough hair to dry off with after a bath must know what the fuss is about. It seems she would be the most likely to intervene on our behalf when it comes to crappy hair.
When you go to the hairdresser next time, it might behoove you to pray to St. Mary Magdalene, ask for her intercession to allow your hair to become a halo of light and vibrancy, to help you be comfortable letting go of the past and find comfort in the future. We are all sinners here but we don't have to be sinners with bad hair.